Florence Hartley was a prominent Victorian-era writer known for her influential works aimed at women, particularly in the realms of etiquette and needlework. Her most notable publication, "The Ladies' Book of Etiquette, and Manual of Politeness," served as a comprehensive guide for women navigating the social norms of the time, addressing everything from proper behavior to the intricacies of social interactions. Hartley's writing not only reflected the expectations placed upon women in the 19th century but also provided them with the tools to assert their roles within society. In addition to her focus on etiquette, Hartley was an advocate for women's health, emphasizing the importance of well-being and self-care in her writings. Her contributions were significant in a period when women's voices were often marginalized, and her works helped to empower women by providing them with knowledge and skills that were essential for their personal and social development. Hartley's legacy lies in her ability to blend practical advice with a progressive outlook, making her a notable figure in the literary landscape of her time.
“There is no branch of education called so universally into requisition as the art of letter writing; no station, high or low, where the necessity for correspondence is not felt; no person, young or old, who does not, at some time, write, cause to be written, and receive letters. From the President in his official capacity, with the busy pens of secretaries constantly employed in this branch of service, to the Irish laborer who, unable to guide a pen, writes, also by proxy, to his kinsfolks across the wide ocean; all, at some time, feel the desire to transmit some message, word of love, business, or sometimes enmity, by letter.”
“Politeness, being based upon real kindness of heart, cannot exist where there is selfishness or brutality to warp its growth. It is founded upon love of the neighbor, and a desire to be beloved, and to show love.”
“It is a want of true politeness that introduces the discord and confusion which too often make our homes unhappy. A little consideration for the feelings of those whom we are bound to love and cherish, and a little sacrifice of our own wills, would, in multitudes of instances, make all the difference between alienation and growing affection.”